Hi
I just solved this problem, but with hardware....and luck.
I didnt know about this bug with windows untill after completing my HTPC and trying to connect to the AV amp.
However I was lucky enough to have purchased a Motherboard with integrated optical SPDIF on rear and SPDIF header on board (Gigabyte ga-eg41mf).
After testing found both were active together.
Bought a Gt9500 card (Asus Bravo 9500) with SPDIF connector and hooked this to the motherboard header.
Now HDMI with audio to TV, and optical SPDIF to AV amp at same time.
Only really helpful if specifieing new build.
regards
Peter